Dear God Forgive me when I whine!
Yesterday on my way to the library, I saw a taxi man trying to help a handicap person in a wheelchair get into the car. It was difficult… for them, and us; the passer by’s! Seeing them both struggle mutely, keeping the patience with a slight smile to make it seem normal was unbearable. I sat a short distance away and observed how people reacted.
Some walked hurriedly with a rigid facial expression trying to look busy and unaware of the situation, some were affected by it, others were trying to continue a conversation after muttering for a few moments; having seen the young lady in her wheelchair being pulled back and forth into the car to fit in a comfortable position. I placed my hand on my heart, and thought to myself, what a devoted person this young lady is!
To wake up every morning and go through the same hassle and trouble to get to university must be difficult! But I’m also certain that her will is stronger than any of the people around her, including mine!
I began to question myself, whether I would be able to do the same if I was under severely difficult conditions. Will I be able to leave my house very often and go to university, graduate, and look for a job? Will I have high hopes and get married some day and have my own babies? It’s all perfectly possible, but the question is….will I be able to have the optimism, the strength, the determination and the motivation to do all the things I would want to do?
Sometimes I whine about having a blister on the soles of my feet for having worn a pair of heels the night before and decide to sabotage my plans for the evening thinking about the pain I’ll be going through if I walked ten more steps! (silly me) .. I need some cognitive therapy; I should start changing my thinking process, that way my behaviour will change eventually. Come to think of it, I think ill add this to my New Year resolution list of ‘Must Do’s’!
To be frank, I forgot what last year’s resolution was, but I do know one thing; that I am definitely not the same person I was last year, which is always a PLUS…I hope!
I was trying to find reasons as to why people whine. I began to brainstorm in my mind. I imagined a whining person in the middle, with lots of arrows stretching out.. each arrow had a reason as to why that person whines. It’s difficult to explain in details, but I came to a very short thesis which states, that perhaps a person whines because it’s another way of expressing his/her worries. Or perhaps some people are not used to the common peace between the voices in their head, and hence begin to whine about something completely worthless in order to have something to focus on other than the silence in his/her head… or maybe by whining is just another anxiety mechanism, by which; one focuses on the topic they are whining about to avoid an interpersonal anxiety provoking subject, event, or situation.
If whining is derived from always wanting something, then where does the need to always have something fulfilled come from? Could it be from our Id? and if we whine a lot, does that also mean that we have a week superego; to step on our childish Id and use it’s moral powers to make us more reasonable, sensible, and satisfied beings?
I’ll leave this discussion open… you are welcome to share your views…
Sometimes I whine about having a blister on the soles of my feet for having worn a pair of heels the night before and decide to sabotage my plans for the evening thinking about the pain I’ll be going through if I walked ten more steps! (silly me) .. I need some cognitive therapy; I should start changing my thinking process, that way my behaviour will change eventually. Come to think of it, I think ill add this to my New Year resolution list of ‘Must Do’s’!
To be frank, I forgot what last year’s resolution was, but I do know one thing; that I am definitely not the same person I was last year, which is always a PLUS…I hope!
I was trying to find reasons as to why people whine. I began to brainstorm in my mind. I imagined a whining person in the middle, with lots of arrows stretching out.. each arrow had a reason as to why that person whines. It’s difficult to explain in details, but I came to a very short thesis which states, that perhaps a person whines because it’s another way of expressing his/her worries. Or perhaps some people are not used to the common peace between the voices in their head, and hence begin to whine about something completely worthless in order to have something to focus on other than the silence in his/her head… or maybe by whining is just another anxiety mechanism, by which; one focuses on the topic they are whining about to avoid an interpersonal anxiety provoking subject, event, or situation.
If whining is derived from always wanting something, then where does the need to always have something fulfilled come from? Could it be from our Id? and if we whine a lot, does that also mean that we have a week superego; to step on our childish Id and use it’s moral powers to make us more reasonable, sensible, and satisfied beings?
I’ll leave this discussion open… you are welcome to share your views…
posted by memi at 4:30 pm
1 Comments:
yes... i know what you mean...
i agree with you, sometimes i see less fortunate people and i think to my self, this is not how the equation works...just because they lack something i have, im sure they have something i do not have, because someone better than i am will look at me and think the same, "poor memi.. she doesnt have what i have"... and vers versa.. i'll look at them and think, "well... i might not have this but i have something else which is still precious to me.." ...
ahh :P okay ill zippp ittttttt!
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